I am a mother of 12 year old boy. Dinner table conversations with friends’ evoked memories and questions in my head regarding dating and sex by the younger generation.
Since I am mother to a boy I will never be able to understand how vulnerable parent of a daughter feel. Although being a female myself I do know of all the restrictions and challenges faced by females. What we hear and read about child molestation and abuse cases these days have always been there. Exposure to media and other networking systems have gotten cases of rape and murder to our knowledge on a regular basis.
I myself faced molestation in my childhood so have many of my clients, friends, and acquaintances, That too from the most unexpected places. People who are supposed to love you, protect you have done such acts.
What I realized was parents are coming from their own understanding of the outer world. Since they could not save themselves from the situations and people around them, they want to save their girls from the outer world. Though I understand they are coming from a good space but is it really helping our daughters?
Do we really have to do this or we can do something different and better?
Instead of stopping our girls from stepping outside curbing their freedom, can’t we give them tools to safeguard themselves? Why can’t we teach our daughters how to be more responsible of their emotions and their bodies? Isn’t it better to equip them better than telling them the world outside is cruel?
As a parent to a boy what kind of values am I imparting to my own child? What is my duty towards him and the society?
Being a mother of a boy I feel I have a bigger responsibility than the mother of a daughter. For, that mother has to only protect her daughter. I am responsible for my child and all those girls my son will come across.
My son is responsible for his emotions, his body, his soul and others out there too.